Figuring it all out, what questions to ask and how to plan for the next two weeks, two months or a year begins with knowing the questions to ask. Most of us have no idea. We have no clue what those questions are, what the answers should be and ... what to do with the information. Usually, we’re just trying to solve the most immediate problem or crisis and can’t think much beyond that.

This is not the conversation parents have at their kids’ soccer games, at parties or even with our families. The "we’re terrified, don’t understand what’s happening, don’t know where to turn" conversations. This is not a conversation those who suffer from eating disorders want to have at all. If you are thinking about a higher level of care or finding professionals for yourself or a family member, more information is more. And you will want to consider a couple of choices and begin with these and other questions:

  • What kind of treatment does a facility provide? How expert is the staff?

  • Is this professional skilled in working with the complexity of eating disorders? Will they “see” me or my family member, not just the disease?

  • Given the severity or complexity of the situation, is this the correct fit?

  • How long does this treatment usually take? What happens afterward?

  • What kind of communication and family work takes place? As a parent, am I going to feel blamed?

  • How does the program handle nutrition? What about exercise?

  • Can I have my cellphone and laptop?

  • What happens when someone leaves treatment? What comes next? Why is it important to have a plan for this?

  • What kind of coaching and support will the family receive?

  • Can my child go back to school or college? Is there a good academic component at the program?

  • Can I return to work after treatment? How?

  • How much is this really going to cost? How much does insurance cover?

In short, how do you compare apples to apples and oranges to oranges? How do you plan for all of the levels of care logistically, financially and emotionally? Most of all, how do you and your loved one get the most out of the entire treatment experience from start to finish? This may be your best shot. Let’s make it count.

Whether we work together briefly or become partners in the recovery process, my goal is to give you as much support as I can. You deserve it and you need it.